The summer holidays are almost here, but for many children, the final weeks of school can be some of the hardest. Here's how parents can help.
There's something about this time of year. The mornings are getting harder, patience is wearing thin, and little things seem to be turning into big things. Kids who have managed reasonably well throughout the year are suddenly struggling with things that wouldn't normally bother them. And parents? They're exhausted too.
With Christmas approaching, school events filling the calendar, and everyone counting down to the summer holidays, it's easy to overlook just how much our kids have been carrying. Think about it. They've spent the year navigating friendships, academic expectations, social pressures, changing routines, disappointments, and countless moments where they've had to manage their emotions and hold themselves together.
By Term 4, some children are simply running on empty. And while the finish line is in sight, that doesn't necessarily make getting there any easier. So, how can we help our kids navigate these final weeks without adding to the pressure?
1. Look beyond the behaviour.
One of the biggest mistakes we can make as parents is assuming that difficult behaviour always comes down to a bad attitude or unwillingness to cooperate. Sometimes, what looks like defiance is actually exhaustion, frustration, or a child who's struggling to manage everything going on around them.
You might notice more emotional outbursts, arguments over small things, reluctance to attend school, or a child who seems unusually sensitive. It's worth remembering that some kids spend their entire school day working hard to keep themselves together, only to fall apart when they get home.
That doesn't mean we excuse every behaviour or abandon boundaries. It simply means we get curious about what's happening underneath it.
Instead of immediately asking, "Why are you behaving like this?", try considering, "What's making things harder for my child right now?" Sometimes the behaviour we see is only a small part of what's actually going on.
2. Ease up on the pressure.
There's often an expectation that kids should finish the school year strong. Keep working hard, stay motivated, push through, and don't give up now. While perseverance is important, we also need to recognise when our kids are genuinely running low on emotional energy.
Not every afternoon needs to be productive. Not every disagreement needs to become a teaching moment. And not every difficult day needs an immediate solution. Consider whether there are a few expectations you can temporarily relax. Maybe it's reducing unnecessary afternoon commitments, allowing more downtime after school, or recognising that your child might need some quiet time before being asked about their day.
We're not lowering our expectations of our children. We're simply recognising that their capacity can change depending on what they're experiencing.
3. Prioritise connection over correction.
When children are tired and overwhelmed, it's easy for family life to become a constant cycle of instructions, reminders, consequences, and arguments. Before long, it can feel as though every interaction is about something they need to do differently.
This is where connection becomes particularly important. Find small opportunities to spend time together without an agenda. Play a game, go for a walk, kick a footy, or simply sit alongside them while they do something they enjoy. These moments might seem insignificant, but they help strengthen the relationship that makes difficult conversations possible.
And when things do go wrong, remember that repairing the relationship matters just as much as addressing the behaviour. A simple conversation after everyone has calmed down can be far more effective than trying to teach a lesson in the middle of an emotional meltdown. Kids are often more receptive to guidance when they feel understood, rather than constantly corrected.
4. Prepare for the transition into summer.
We tend to think of the summer holidays as an automatic reset button. No homework, no early mornings, no school pressures. Just sunshine, Christmas, and a well-earned break. But for some children, particularly those who experience anxiety, ADHD, or difficulties with transitions, suddenly losing the structure of the school day can actually be unsettling.
The answer isn't to schedule every minute of the holidays. In fact, children benefit from having opportunities to be bored, play independently, and enjoy time without expectations. Instead, consider maintaining a few predictable routines. Consistent sleep schedules, regular meals, opportunities for movement, and a general idea of what's happening throughout the week can help children feel secure while still enjoying the freedom of summer.
It's also worth having conversations about next year. Some children will be excited about moving into a new grade, while others might be worried about friendships, new teachers, or changing schools. Giving them space to express those feelings without immediately jumping into reassurance or problem-solving can make a real difference.
5. Celebrate progress, not just achievement.
As the school year comes to a close, there will be plenty of attention on reports, awards, academic results, and achievements. And while those things are worth celebrating, they don't always tell the full story of a child's year.
For some children, the biggest achievement might have been walking into school despite feeling anxious. For others, it might have been making a new friend, learning to manage their anger, asking for help, or recovering from a difficult experience. These achievements might never appear on a school report, but they're incredibly important.
Take some time to reflect with your child on how they've grown throughout the year. Ask what they're proud of, what they've found difficult, and what they've learned about themselves. And don't be afraid to share what you've noticed. Sometimes hearing a parent say, "I've noticed how hard you've worked on that this year, and I'm really proud of you," means far more than another certificate or award.
Our kids need to know that who they are matters far more than what they achieve.
Finishing the year together.
The final weeks of school don't need to be perfect. There will probably still be difficult mornings, emotional moments, sibling arguments, and days where everyone is a little less patient than they'd like to be. The goal isn't to eliminate every challenge or make every day run smoothly. It's to help our children feel supported, understood, and connected as they navigate the end of another big year.
And parents, remember that you've been navigating this year alongside them. You're probably running low on energy too. Sometimes finishing the year well isn't about one final push to achieve more. It's about recognising how far everyone has come and giving ourselves permission to slow down.
The finish line is almost here. Let's help our kids cross it feeling supported, not simply exhausted.
How Lumi can help.
At lumi, I work alongside children, teenagers, and parents navigating anxiety, emotional regulation, school challenges, family relationships, and the everyday pressures of growing up. The end of the school year can be a great opportunity to reflect on what's been difficult, recognise what's improved, and begin preparing for a more positive year ahead.
If your child has been struggling, or you're noticing that things are becoming harder at home, support is available.
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